SET HIGH STANDARDS…LIVE ABOVE THEM!

My girl, Doris and I were talking about people and how sometimes they make you feel as though your principles are way out of this world and they need you to ‘loosen up’ a little- let go of every value you have built your life on and live life like they do besides you only live once…so a little compromise here and there can’t hurt. Right? God No!!!!!! It will hurt and hurt you bad, sometimes sooner than later.

They say experience is the best teacher and as much as I do not totally agree with this statement, I sure have learnt under its mostly painful tutelage. I can tell you instances and more, where I have let down my standards just for a bit and regretted it a whole lot. I used to do it, and still do sometimes so I guess I would be needing this blog post too: D, mostly because I wanted to fit in. Growing up, I always felt different…not inadequate but different, like an outsider looking in through this glass wall and watching everyone else ‘chill out’ on the other side. And it would hurt so bad I would cry and ask God while I didn’t ‘fit in’ ever. It took years for the answer to sink in and for me to accept it, but I now know that, DIFFERENT IS GOOD! And I am not saying it in that religious ‘straight and narrow is the way that leads to heaven’ sense, but in the ‘God created everyone with a unique something that should make you stand out…or as I like to say, stand apart’ sense. You see, I have said it before and I would keep saying it a lot! No matter how many people do a particular thing, there’s something different about the way they all do it, my mum calls it our signature. And you see, that right there is your uniqueness and that my friends makes you different from everyone else. The only way to be ‘the same’ as ‘them’ is to deem your shine and what makes you special. We were not created to be moving around the world like zombies doing everything the same way at the same time and having the exact same results!

So, the thing about standards is they are set not to be brought down or lower but to be raised constantly because once you drop them, they lose value. And compromise….hmm the word I dread! Please when someone says to you; compromise now, run for the sake of your precious life! Yes, your life! Your standards, your values, your principles make your life…these are the foundations of the person you are, of your life. So do not, I repeat, DO NOT accommodate people who think you have to ‘measure down’ to their level. Sounds harsh but some friendships/relationships are don’t worth holding on to if it means a constant pull down. A little compromise will turn to another one and then a bigger one until you don’t even recognize yourself any more. You become a shadow of someone or something and be miserable and then you would realize that you have wasted valuable time trying to be a person someone else thinks you need to be for them. And the worst part is, when you compromise, you are most likely going to tarnish your reputation and soil your integrity. So dear is it really worth it????? Remember Proverbs 22:1 says: ‘A good name is better than much wealth; high esteem is better than silver and gold.

So summary of what I am saying is:

Dream big, dream great, having high goals is okay. Do not anyone or anything pull you out of your life track. Never compromise and most importantly, Set high High standards and live above them!

*FYI, I am grateful for my friends, especially people like Doris who constantly remind me the importance of not compromising!!!!! Thanks Girl!!!!

And Congratulations to Sharon and Damilo on graduating well! Keep the standard up, ladies! :*

Hello Everyone,

So I know it has being awhile I actually wrote something and unlike every other time, No, it is not because I got busy; which I did but that was not the reason. I have being in a season or phase as I like to call it. That Season is why I haven’t written.

I have been struggling with what to title this because well everyone likes to have an idea of what the content of what they are about to read is. But I cannot come up with the perfect ‘title’ so I guess you have to read on to find out, yeah? ;D

Plus I should probably warn you; this is going to be a long read so please if you are driving, don’t even try it! LOL! Not kidding, though.

“On your mark, Get set…”, and I would have being mid-way by the time the referee or whoever was you know, organizing the race would say “…Go!”, if I was a sports person which I am not and that is why I am quite unsure about the name of the person who organizes the race…#NotAshamed!

When I graduated from Primary School, my testimonial said ‘hardworking, obedient and patient’, or something of the sorts. They were definitely right about the first two, but for the 3^rd; well let’s just say the aspect that required my patience in school was something that I naturally had control over. I was quiet and am still very calculative so I never got into unnecessary confrontations at school. Plus they always said stuff like ‘gentle’ in my report card every term which I believe they thought went hand in hand with patience. Anyway my patience is that character trait that used to fail me when I needed it the most. Because although, I may not go around screaming I want it now, I would have sleepless nights because of wanting it now! So you see, for the most part, my lack of patience was secret that is why everyone thought I was very patient. Now put a finger on that…

I am also someone who likes having something to look forward to.... My birthday, Christmas, Easter, End/Beginning of the school year, a trip, an outing, a packet from DHL, a call, an email... the list is endless! I would doing a countdown like...down to minutes. i could even draw up a calender; probably in a book i always have with me, so i can strike out days! So take your finger off.... because there is always something to look forward to, there is usually waiting right? Right! And since I love looking forward to things I love the waiting period right? Wrong!!!! 

Remember, I told you about the sleepless nights? Yes, that’s just one of the symptoms. I am usually miserable! Jittery, Restless and everything else in that period could more or less be non-existent to me. And then the worst part is, when that day or event happens, I may not even enjoy it because I begin to worry about the fact that it’s going to go by too fast…HAHAHAHAHA! (Another day’s Blog Jist).

Anyway, ‘the waiting period’,( hey, I should probably have called this post that!) So you know I usually blog about the lessons God teaches me with seemingly small events that happen? Yes, Good. So I will give you an example of the most recent dealings on my Patience or no patience issue…lol.

First off, I was reading ‘THE POWER OF I AM’ by Joel Osteen a couple of weeks ago. 

And he talked about how there is no coincident and how everything happens at the appointed time and how every little detail, timing and all, sums up to specific events that happen in our lives. He also talked about being content in the ‘process’…. Of waiting. I remember calling my friend and being like, “Oh my God, I just read this………it is so true……I heard this before in a sermon at school….bla bla bla”. And I also remember thinking, life could be so easy if we just stopped stressing about stuff…. 

Now fast forward to last week; I had planned to go out and I had a mental picture of how everything was to go, I always do. I would catch a ride with mum and drop off because I sure wasn’t going to walk under this ‘end-time’ sun...lol. I got dressed and everything and was waiting. Mum was like give me an hour and I will be ready and I was like okay, one hour. So I went back to my room and just laid on my bed unnecessarily browsing. An hour later…She was very far from being ready! I was so pissed! I am soooooooooooooooo time conscious! Summary of this story: we didn’t go out eventually, and I basically wasted the day. Why? Because I was obsessing about my going out, that I didn’t think of being happily productive while waiting. Get where I am going with this? Later that night, as I did the dishes, the Holy Spirit reminded me of what I read, and showed me how my attitude that day was usually my attitude to most happenings in my life. I looked forward to the ‘big thing’ happening that I made myself miserable while waiting for it and basically would achieve less or nothing in that period. Worse, I remembered a question Joel asked, ‘what if that thing never happens?’ What then? Don’t I know the answer to that one…twice as much disappointment!

I learned that day, that patience is not just the ability to wait, but is the ability to be content and joyful in the process, while fixing your eyes on the prize. James 1:2-4 says;

So God made you a promise...what seems like a trillion years ago and it seemingly is slow, hang in there! He never lies and his word never returns to him void. Enjoy the process, so you are ready for the blessing!

If you are in the waiting period which most of us are in for different things, I pray for the grace to stay patient! Because trust me, there’s nothing like looking back and realizing you wasted time being miserable!

Hey family,
It's been awhile. I know and I am sorry.
So remember 3 posts ago, I posted a press release for an online TV show called,'what do you think?' well finally, they have some episodes out!
I saw them and they were worth the data...trust me ;D
This particular episode was really interesting to me because it was on the gender equality bill issue in Nigeria.
By the way, I have quite a sum to say about it but I have chosen not to for.......reasons that are personal. So whatever views expressed in the show are not mine oooo!
Lol
So anywaaaaayyyy....check it out! And don't forget to drop your comment...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Q-nQb7TnqFs

I HATE 'HOLY WEEK-ENDS'!!!!!

So I’ve being thinking to myself

having this conversations with myself,

This is a week they call holy;

The week-end

Because they claim it was ‘this week’ my savior was killed,

Buried and rose again

This week they say, is the essence of my Christianity;

 This 7 days

They told me not to cuss; “Don’t drink, don’t smoke, and don’t fornicate;

This week is holy!”

Be careful what to eat, where you go, what you say, just be careful what you do this week-end

And like a strict diet plan,

I keep myself from all the things I think I need and when the weekend is up;

I binge!

So I asked myself,

Is it okay to be unfaithful to the lover of my soul other days of my life,

And keep a few weeks holy;

Just because I don’t see him;

Not because he isn’t here;

But… my senses are deemed out in the crazy cravings of my soul to perceive the master’s presence

That I don’t realize he is here;

Thinking about me;

Constantly wanting to have a conversation with me

Telling me he loves me; telling me I am beautiful and he wants no other!

Is it okay to run to the foot of the cross on Friday, sulk on Saturday and dance on Sunday…

But return to my promiscuity on Monday;

Having affairs with greed, lust, selfishness;

Letting anger take over my mind and mouth;

So I curse at my boss who doesn’t seem to see that I had a long weekend

And raise my hand to curse more at the man in the blue van who cut traffic

I feel okay talking about the girl 2 rooms down the hall way because she isn’t here

Letting inappropriate thoughts have a party in my mind because after all it’s just another week!

Putting everything and anything above the one who gave it all for me!

Do you realize what you are telling me to do?!

What if you had a friend who didn’t really care about you?

 Who didn’t care about your feelings?

Who said what he or she liked;

Who did what he pleased not… regarding how you felt;

What if this was the person you had sacrificed your life for?

And all they gave you in return was…

ONE WEEK-END!

The death, burial and resurrection of our savior

Like an old childhood toy;

We stuffed at the bottom of the ‘not needed box’ as we grew up

Bringing it out every Easter week-end

To ‘reflect’ on it as they call it

And right after throw it in the garage till the next Easter week-end!

Instead of a total surrender to the essence of the week-end…

This is the trend;

But should it be?

And now you see…

I cannot but despise ‘holy week-ends’…

Clichés that make us treat the master anyway

I don't know if I wanna make it a thing but....

So this morning a good friend of mine who happens to be a 'radio presenter' hit me up, and tells me about an online talk show that's going to premier tomorrow and.......okay, I will just let you read the press release yourself;

"THE FIRST ONLINE TALK SHOW IN IBADAN

How hard is it to make a Talk Show??
Well, it’s not that hard once you have a location, a couple of cameras and a few people who like to talk. It is also very important to have someone who can handle the cameras and do the final editing but do not forget lights, they are very important and then costume, makeup, catchy content, long hours of research, creativity, yes the list goes on. Easy right?

Getting it right with Talk Shows can be very tricky especially because the audience is made up of individuals who have diverse experiences and opinions. But, there is a young lady who is confident she has the right mix to create a Talk Show that will capture the heart and mind of her audience.

Her name is Oluyomi Oshisami and her audience is every young person out there especially the ones who are young at heart.

She calls the show ‘What do You think?’ and as the name implies, the show seeks to explore everyday issues in the most witty, compelling and funny way.

Together with 2 Radio Personalities Babatunde Ojobaro (Mister Rain) and Kayode Okikiolu (Klay), every episode of the show will get you thinking, talking and eventually making moves to challenge the status quo around you.

The first Webisode premieres on Thursday 10/03/2016 and it will definitely be one of the best Talk Shows you’ll see around.

You can Follow What Do You Think Talk Show:

http://bit.ly/1L8QXrz (remember to subscribe)

Instagram
http:// instagram.com/whatdoyouthink.tv

Twitter
http://twitter.com/wdyttvshow

BBM channel
http://pin.bbm.com/C00144BED

Facebook
http://facebook.com/whatdoyouthinktvshow

If you can think about it, we will talk about it

WHAT DO YOU THINK?"

So there it is people. Like i said i don't know if this will be a thing BUT i support a good cause especially when it has to do with youths. Support it too.. look out for the show tomorrow!
 Meanwhile i will be posting something new soon...look out for that too...LOL.

Okay, bye. :)

I LOVE YOU!

I watch you while you sleep

I do this because you look so beautiful

I want to tell you

I really do...

But once you get up in the morning you lock me out

I try to speak to you but you block your ears

I won't push it because I am a gentle man

I knock ever so gently but you ignore me

Cracking up the rhythm of your daily busy schedule 

I watch you as you go through the papers on your bed side table

The ones that cause you to worry

I want to tell you it is okay

But you've locked me out

I am sad not just because you locked me out 

But because you don't even know you did

You did by the wall of guilt and condemnation you built around yourself

I really want to get through but you convince yourself you are too filthy for my eyes to behold

You say to yourself you are too much of a mess and I couldn't possibly want you

But I do!

I want you just that way...

I can wash you and clean you up

I love you so much I could only die to prove it

I want to take away the fear that eats at you at night

I want to hold away the aches that you try to hide 

I see your secret tears and you don't have to be strong with me

I have enough strength for the both of us

I don't condemn you! No never!

I know what you did but I love you more

You don't have to earn it I gave it to you freely

I will keep watching and loving you

I will keep knocking

I won't push it because I am a gentle man

I will wait till you accept my offer...

I will wait...